Authentic Masculinity

Shut Up and Listen: The One Assumption That Saves Your Marriage

Seth Troutt

What if the key to becoming a better listener starts with admitting you're terrible at it? Most people assume they're good listeners, then proceed to miss what's actually being said, connect dots that don't exist, and hear words that were never spoken.

The gap between physical hearing and genuine understanding creates distance in every relationship you value. When you passively let sounds hit your eardrums without working to comprehend, you miss the tension behind words, fail to ask clarifying questions, and settle for surface-level connection.

The ancient Hebrew concept of "Shema" exposes this shallow approach—true listening isn't just auditory reception but comprehension, internalization, and response. Yet most men never develop the most critical listening skill: knowing what question to ask next.

Embracing silence and admitting your listening deficiencies actually unlocks the connection your marriage, family, and workplace desperately need.

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